It says in the bible in Hebrews12:14-15 “Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord: looking diligently lest any man fail the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many are defiled.”
With the rood of bitterness, the issue is about trust and pain. How much trust do you have and pain can you endure? With friends and extended family who betray your trust, you kind of expect it. They are human and not perfect. But then, it is about issue of pain and how much you can take. When it is someone closer, it is even harder. I never have backed down from a challenge. I am ready to march through hell, if necessary. But the issue is trust. Can you trust the person, you are going through hell for? Pain can change your heart. Sorrow is a difficult burden. You will want to get rid of it as fast as you can. In the bible Jesus talks about this very thing. In Matthew 11:29-30 “Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Even if you dig yourself into a hole, God can get you out. It is all about trust.